Jake and I got together with my biological father and his girlfriend yesterday for dinner. His g/f called me earlier in the day to remind me that it was Jim's birthday, so Jake and I stopped and got him a card and a gift card to Coldstone. I felt like I owed him at least a card after all that he has bought me/done for me since he's been in my life. I wanted to get him a gift, also, but I don't really know what all he's into, so I figured that ice cream is usually a safe bet, so we went with that.
His g/f, Jill, just had a "home reception" for her daughter, who recently got married in Iowa. So, she's in "wedding mode" and was asking me a bunch of questions about Jake and my wedding. We ended up staying out there longer than I had planned because I figured Jake would be tired after having worked all day, but we were having a good time, so the time just flew by.
Before Jim had to turn in for the night, he took me aside (in the kitchen) and handed me an envelope of money and told me that it was for Jake and me to put toward the wedding or honeymoon. We opened up the envelope when we got home and there was a sizable amount of money in there...enough that it makes me feel guilty for accepting it.
We really do appreciate the donation, but it sorta makes me feel bad that he gave us THAT much. I really hope that he does come to the wedding so that he can enjoy the experience with us, since he's helping pay for it now. I know he still feels awkward around my mom, but hopefully he can get passed that, at least for one day.
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I think its great that he wants to contribute to the wedding, this is his way of saying that he really does want to be a part of your life and at least try and be some family to you. I'm sure part of him feels obligated as "Father of the Bride" but him saying that he wants that responsibility is huge...and this day is about you. I feel like awkward or not everyone will make it through the day because this is about you and Jake and not anyone else.
Like I said, I appreciate the contribution and the fact that he wants to be a part of the wedding, but it was a lot of money and I'm not used to being given a large amount of money at once. It's just a weird feeling for me.
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