Today I went to a baby baptism and the party that followed the church service. It seemed like EVERYONE had a kid or was pregnant! It kinda makes me want to have a child of my own (even though I know that we're not in the best financial situation right now). But part of me thinks "if all of these teenagers that are now getting pregnant everywhere you turn can handled raising a baby, why can't I?"
It's really important to me to be married before I have children because I want to do things "in the right order" and not the reverse order that many people my age have been following. I want to be a family, where everyone has the same last name. It's not that I'm afraid of what people will say if I have a child out of wedlock, because I really couldn't care less about their opinions, but it's just always been in my "life plan" to have the wedding and then the kids.
I wish that there was a way to move the wedding closer so that I could start try to have a baby sooner, but I know that's a selfish wish and that I need to just hush up and be patient. It's just hard to do so when I see people every day that are pregnant, not to mention the fact that I work with infants at work, and it makes my heart ache for a baby of my own...
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I'm really glad that you want to do things "in the right order" unlike most of the people our age. Nothing against those that have done it the opposite way, I understand that sometimes things happen. I really want to do things in the right order too, but I also don't want to be "the old mom" and seeing as I don't even have a someone in my life, I'm predicting at least 3-5 years before I'm married so that's putting me at 4-6 years before I can have a kid at the minimum. I'll be almost 30. I know that's not really "old" any more, but it just seems old to me with most of my friends my age already being married with kids.
Yeah, I feel like I'll be on the older side of the child-bearing spectrum by the time I'm married and start trying to have kids based on the ages that some of my friends have been/are when they've had/are having kids. I don't wanna be the 45-year-old taking my kid to kindergarten, though. Hopefully it won't work out that way, but hey, you never know.
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